I've been looking into headlighting...so it's funny you start this thread....phase 2 is a good source, and they are who I am going to work with on getting them ....however East bear has stopped production of the ones that you are asking about and are about to release their new line of projector headlight kits, they were actually supposed to come out this past month so they are a little behind on release date. Their pretty sweet from what I hear....I know that the old east bear projectors ran around $600 for the pair....how much the new ones are going to cost I do not know,but they should be out soon.
Now as for the sleepy eye thing...I would like to do that as well...from what info I have gathered, if you do it manually, it will just reset itself back when you turn your headlights on...so that way is kinda redundent :smacked49 . However there are a couple of other ways but the only other one that I know of is obtaining some sort of device called a pivot control. With this you can control the pivot of the eyelid manually and leave it at any position you want , on or off. However they are very difficult to abtain. That's the downside.