Okay, I happened to talk with Andy (my fabricator & 240sx guru/whipping boy). All the AC stuff is on the body harness, not the upper or lower engine harnesses. You should find all the connectors you need already there.
You don't replace any oil that came out of the filter/drier- you replace the filter/drier itself any time you disconnect it after is has been used- they are 14 bucks on Amazon. Only place you put oil is in the compressor- empty it & re-service it per FSM with PAG or Ester oil... Your local auto parts store should be able to tell you exactly which oil is for your car with R134a. The oil circulates around the system via the compressor, which is why you had it in the filter/drier.
You NEED to run AC system solvent thru the lines with everything disconnected, then purge them with compressed air or nitrogen before putting the system back together. Also, you need to use new o-rings everywhere you disconnect... O-ring kits are like 3 bucks.
Also, YES, you need an additional compressor fan- the system will not run correctly without one. You can either wire one of your electrics as the compressor fan, or run a 3rd fan. I vote for 3rd fan- you can use a small pusher in front of the condenser, or between the condenser & radiator if there is room.
If you are doing your AC, you can't just throw it together and expect it to last... Do it right, and only have to do it once. The key to a good, cold AC system is clena oil and no leaks. The only way to ensure both is to clean out the lines, change the compressor oil & use fresh o-rings at every connection in the system.